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At least 80% of the prayer requests we receive here at Christianityworks ask us to pray for people’s families. Please pray for my son, or my wife, or my daughter or my husband, or my aunty, or my cousins, or...
That tells me something. It tells me that people care deeply about their families. As difficult and as strife torn as many families are, they really matter to us.
Yet so many of us are disappointed when we look at our own families, because somehow we imagine that out there somewhere is some perfect family – mum, dad and 2.4 well-adjusted kids. And that perfect family is living a perfect life. In fact – not just one of them – lots of them – thousands, hundreds of thousands, millions of them.
All these perfect families – I mean look at them!! They all look so…well, perfect.
But not my family. Ohhh no! Blended, or dysfunctional – arguments and strife. People who haven’t talked to each other for years. Parents who drive their children nuts. Children who just don’t get it – they go off and do their own thing – leave their parents shaking their heads.
You get what I’m saying – right? It feels like sometimes its just our family life that’s in a mess and everyone else out there has got it together.
The point that I’m trying to make here is this: it’s not just you having issues in your families. 99.9% of families have problems and those that don’t are kidding themselves.
So let’s stop carrying around this stupid burden we’ve plonked on our heads, that somehow my family doesn’t measure up.
It’s not about measuring up. It’s about what you and I can do from this day onwards to build a godly family.
What seeds can I sow? What plants can I water so that the fruit of a godly family will grow for all to enjoy? That’s what it’s about – because your family matters.
So…what’s God’s plan for your family? Well, here it is (Psalm 37:35,36):
I have been young, and now am old,
yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread.
They are ever giving liberally and lending,
and their children become a blessing.
See that’s God’s perfect plan for our families. For us to live a good life, for us to be a blessing to our children and for them to go on and become a blessing to others.
It’s a story that’s written in our DNA. It’s a story that plays itself out in our hopes and our dreams. But it’s a plot that we so easily lose in this consumer oriented, entertainment oriented, credit card oriented world in which we live.
Let me ask you again – out of everything in your life – everything you have, every hope and every dream, every possession and every desire – out of everything – how much does your family matter?
My hunch is that for most of us, the answer is a lot. Family matters an awful lot – doesn’t it? And if it does, if it really does – then surely, surely we need to invest in this thing – these relationships, these people who matter more to us than any other thing in this world.
So I want to encourage you to be deliberate – get that, d-e-l-i-b-e-r-a-t-e – about building a godly family.
Read more from Berni Dymet in his blog A Different Perspective.