Be Still Know
Psalm 90:10 NLT
‘Seventy years are given to us! Some even live to eighty. But even the best years are filled with pain and trouble; soon they disappear, and we fly away.’
Speaking about death is never an easy subject. We also live in a culture that celebrates youth and a media-led caricature of beauty. We assume that disability of any sort is somehow a liability to living life fully, and indeed can patronise disability by assuming it is a lesser form of life. Medically we seek to remove all possibility of disability, arguing it’s to remove pain and stress from the parents, although it may have more to do with budgetary considerations, given that disability does not always need to limit lifespan as once it was assumed to do.
I am a so-called baby boomer. One challenge to baby boomers is that they assume they are forever young and will go on forever. They struggle with the idea of retirement if that means that they are no longer principal contributors to society. However, there is a need for a generation heading north of 60, as I am myself, to demonstrate that life can be lived at a suitable pace and with a measure of grace and understanding of the approach of death.
As I meet with, and minister to, older people, I find there are a lot of unanswered questions. Many of these have been suppressed for fear of upsetting a Church that asserts faith as though it were a series of prescriptive truths. Or life’s left us feeling we’re marooned within a solo experience, uncertain who to speak with for fear of reaction or rejection. Often the places my mind drifts towards are either inappropriate or unholy. God’s life gift is to invite us to explore who we are, how we relate to one another and to the contexts where we express our lives. There is the certainty that we will meet with God after a relatively short time on this earth. Then all our disguises will be removed and we shall see and be seen for who we truly are.
QUESTION: Are there questions you have suppressed for fear they might threaten the foundations of your faith?
PRAYER: God of all mysteries, help me to trust in you and bring to you all my questions, hopes and fears.